Let’s do something a little different. Let’s have a bit of a heart-to-heart here. Tomorrow is Grandparents Day. As some of you might know, I no longer have any grandparents, having lost three in the span of ten months. I didn’t get a chance to see any of them before they died; I didn’t even get to say goodbye.

The cynic in me feels that Grandparents Day is just another Hallmark holiday, designed to sell greeting cards and flowers and diabetic chocolate and dashboard statues of The Virgin Mary. But speaking as someone who is coming from a place of loss, I know it’s much more than that.

If you still have grandparents, treasure them. When they speak, you shut your damn mouth and listen, for they know more than you do. When you’re not sure what to do in a situation, ask them, for they’ve experienced more than you have. Indeed, they have lived more than you have. They have forgotten more about this life than you can ever hope to know. Sure, you might think that they’re senile and cranky and out of touch – but they’ve earned their right to be all of those things and more!

The downside of having lived a long life is that it could end at any time. No matter how much time you have with your grandparents, it’s never really enough. A grandparent isn’t like a dog; when they’re gone you can’t just get a new one. They’re the only ones you’ll ever have, and you’d better make damn sure they know how grateful you are for that fact. In your words and your actions, constantly show them that you love them and appreciate everything they are to you and your family, for you never know when the day will come that they won’t be there. Grandparents Day gets lost in the shuffle, but you need to tell your grandparents how you feel, because there might not be another birthday or Christmas to tell them you love them.

This isn’t a chain letter. If you copy this and send it to twenty people your rich uncle in the UK won’t fly you over and let you stay in his mansion. And if you don’t tell your grandparents you love them, pretty much nothing will change, life will go on as always. But you know what will happen if you do? Your life will be FUCKING AWESOME because they will know how much you cherish them being a part of it! So get up off your ungrateful ass and hug a grandparent today!

Poppy, Nanny, Grandpa, and Grandma – I miss you all.